For many pet owners juggling full-time work and a busy lifestyle, it’s completely normal to worry about what your furry friend gets up to when you’re not around. Whether you’re out for a few hours or the entire day, pets left home alone can experience boredom, stress, or even separation anxiety.

You might notice signs like clingy or destructive behaviour, restlessness when you’re getting ready to leave, loud vocalising, drooling, or even a sudden loss of appetite. These can all point to underlying anxiety, and ignoring them may lead to longer-term behavioural issues.

The good news? You’re not alone, and there are plenty of ways to help manage these behaviours. Understanding the cause is key, and every pet will need a slightly different approach based on their individual personality and routine.

Helping your pet feel secure when you’re coming and going is all about building up their confidence and keeping their mind occupied. From simple changes in how you leave the house, to clever toys and treats, there’s a lot you can do to help them feel more settled.

If your pet’s anxiety seems more intense or persistent, it’s worth seeking help from a behaviour vet or a positive-reinforcement trainer. But for many pets, these simple tips can make a big difference:

1. Skip the big goodbye

It might feel strange, but keeping things low-key when you leave or return helps your pet stay calm. Give them a few minutes before showering them with attention – wait until they’re relaxed.

2. Break the link with your leaving routine

If grabbing your keys or putting on your shoes sends your pet into a spin, try doing these actions throughout the day without leaving the house. This can help them stop associating those habits with you disappearing.

3. Practise time apart while you’re home

Start by giving your pet a treat or toy and heading into another room. Slowly build up the time they spend alone so they get used to self-soothing without you around.

4. Keep their minds busy

Interactive toys, food puzzles, lick mats or motion-activated cat toys offer mental stimulation and make the time pass more quickly. Long-lasting treats are also a great boredom-buster.

5. Try music or TV for company

Some pets are comforted by background noise. Playing classical music, soft rock or even leaving the telly on can help mask outside noises and create a calmer environment.

6. Maintain regular exercise

A tired pet is usually a more content one. Dogs especially need consistent walks or playtime to burn off energy and cutting back suddenly can leave them frustrated and unsettled.

7. Introduce explorative feeding

Hide their food or treats around the home or garden and let them hunt it out. This taps into natural instincts and gives both cats and dogs a fun mental challenge.

8. Consider calming aids

There are pet-safe supplements, pheromone diffusers, and wraps that may help soothe anxiety. Always chat with a professional before introducing something new.

Feeling unsure where to start? Many free online advice services are available, including vet support squads and pet behaviour forums. Or reach out to your local vet, they’ll be happy to guide you through the best plan for your pet.